A Thousand Times, Thank You

Today seems like the most appropriate opportunity to express our undying gratitude to everyone who contributed to our Team CHOP fundraiser for galactosemia research. Thanks to all of you, we exceeded our $1,000 goal! I cannot think of a better way to honor Oliver’s first birthday than by raising this money.

I have a secret to share with all of you: I am terrible at asking for help in my personal life. Even if I am truly in need of rescuing, I tend to feel burdensome and vulnerable (two things I have a really difficult time with). Most of the time, I would rather just carry the burden of whatever I am facing by myself, or by leaning on John. I think it stems from a fear of rejection or a fear of appearing weak to others (I suppose that’s for me and my therapist to sort out though).

By way of example, John and I had decided to board our dogs at their favorite kennel starting the day before my due date last year and had expected to pick them up some time the following week, in hopes that Oliver would make his debut and we would have a little time to get settled in with our newest addition before adding two wild beasts to the mix. A week tops, we thought. But Ollie came a couple of days later than expected and then we found ourselves in Philadelphia so we needed to extend their stay. We knew they wouldn’t mind since they consider it a home-away-from-home and more akin to doggy paradise than a kennel. But I knew they would be running low on food very soon and we didn’t know when we’d be back in town to drop some off. I agonized over what to do and finally, despite my feelings on the matter, we asked our very dear, sweet friends, Erin and Ethan*, if they would mind dropping some by. I am pretty certain my text to Erin contained repetitions of the phrases “I’m so sorry to bother you” and “I promise I’ll reimburse you for the food as soon as I can” and “If you can’t, I totally understand.” Did I mention how bad I am at asking for help?

Anyway, this is just my long-winded way of telling you all that it was not and is not easy for John and I to ask for your help in our cause but we are so very glad we did. We still cannot believe how amazingly generous and thoughtful each of you has been! I do not know if I could say thank you enough times to adequately cover just how thankful we are, but I promise I’ll spend my lifetime trying to!

Most of all, we are just so grateful to have ALL of you in our lives. To know that Oliver has a tribe of such amazing people in his corner is more than we could ever ask for. It warms our hearts to no end. You are all kind, loving, wonderful people! Thank you, thank you, thank you! A thousand times, thank you.

Happy Thanksgiving and thank you for giving the Lucy family that more much to be thankful for this year!

*Just a little note about our friends, Erin and Ethan: they are two of the most giving, kind and loving people we could ask to have in our lives. A blessing, truly. And I feel 100 percent confident in saying our hesitation in asking for help had nothing to do with us thinking they would be unwilling to help us out  and everything to do with our own neuroses 🙂

Strangers No More

It’s the night before the big race and I’ve had the overwhelming feeling all day that the universe is trying to remind me just how good and decent people can be.

Irish greeting, literally "a hundred thousand welcomes"

Irish greeting, literally “a hundred thousand welcomes”

Take this talisman. It’s hanging on the front door of my lodgings for the evening. I had never heard the phrase before, but recognized it as probably Gaelic and when I looked it up I see the literal translation is “a hundred thousand welcomes” and it is, in fact, a common Irish greeting. After the day I have been having today, it seems evermore meaningful.

When we originally planned this trip to Philadelphia, John and Ollie were supposed to be joining me so we had booked a hotel near the start/finish of the course to make life easy. We booked months in advance and it was still ridiculously expensive. We could have booked something further way, but the added headache of finding parking and navigating closed roads hardly seemed worth it. We even contemplated getting up super early and driving in from Harrisburg the morning of but, again, that seemed like a logistical nightmare. So when we finally decided a few weeks from race day that it would be too much to schlep poor little O to the race to hang out all day just to catch a glimpse of me for a few seconds on the course, we started to reevaluate. It’s one thing to justify the expense of the hotel when all three of us needed a place to stay, but now that it would just be me flying solo, it gave me pause. Don’t get me wrong, the idea of having  a large comfy bed all to myself for the night in a luxury hotel sounded fantastic, but it just seemed like  a little too much. So I decided to go with an Airbnb rental instead. Renting a room in someone’s home, rather than their full apartment or house, would get me close to the start line without breaking the bank. Double win.

I was a little apprehensive about it but I knew in the end I was only really going to need a place to lay my head for the night and the race starts at 7:30am so I would be out the door so early that even if it ended up being the worst experience of my life, it would only be brief. To my surprise, my host, Bill, has been absolutely amazing. Accommodating, easy-going, kind, and helpful. Truly everything you ever wanted in an Airbnb host. And the thing is, I would have showered him with all of this lavish praise even before  he did the most amazing thing ever.

When I got here, we started chatting about my plan for the morning (he already knew I was running), other times I had been in the city, etc. I mentioned that my most recent Philadelphia outings have been to CHOP where Oliver sees his doctors and then we started talking about my #TeamCHOP fundraising efforts and galactosemia in general. I didn’t think much of it more than just making conversation. But before he left for dinner, he came by my room and handed me most of what I paid to stay here and insisted I put it towards our fundraising efforts. He said when his daughter was born, she spent some time at CHOP and it is a place that means a lot to him as well. I tried to tell him it was absolutely not necessary. And then I cried. I cried a lot, you guys. How could I not? How could a completely out-of-the-blue act of generosity and kindness from a person who I had just met not reduce me to tears?

It’s a reminder that goodness is out there and shows itself when it can. Sometimes in little ways, and sometimes, like now, in the biggest and best ways. I’m going to carry this feeling with me into tomorrow where, with any lucky, I won’t need the little emergency car to come scrape me off the pavement and scoop me into the cart. Wish us luck!